Husband become ATM for wife

A child of the younger member in the family

Growing Period :
- Less caring of the family member
- Staying in the room similar as store room(with blocking windows).
- Study result in average due to not being caring and also look down and comparing by paretns to other child or children

Working Age :
- Every month as enough for fix expenses without entertainment
- Every month after pay day waiting for next pay day for few years
- Found a partner after few partners and this partner light up my days of making my monthly extra money increase.

Marriage age
A : Before
- Parents seem to be not supporting and make my day getting worse
- Saving since child time being freeze and said not own by me as for expenses of being bring to travel previously
B : After
- Staying with parents just about 1 year run out from family as the child being treat like burden the parents
- Runned out have home with wife cause expenses monthly negative. No choice have to use Credit Card to maintain every month. Discussed with wife however problem not solve made credit amount increase every month.

Divorce occur
- Problem occur due to wife caring her own sufficient usage but not the husband
- Husband get into more than RM15K personal loan and being blame for husband use even though husband is just every month cover up.

Divorce cancel(Back to Marriage Life)
- Wife problem to settle down together slowly however extra usage getting increase again.
- Husband get into more than RM40K personal loan again plus Cards usage and extra amount which use to cover the RM15K personal loan.
- The extra money and card usage is for cover up monthly wife insufficient.

What can this Husband do to settle down all the LOANS which the wife only cares of her own sufficient but not husband insufficient?